Being a new mom is wild, messy, and perfect

Everyone has warned me that raising boys is messy, wild and noisy. Oh how right they were, and especially about the noise level! Sometimes, when I’m surrounded by screams, screams, and shrieks, I imagine the job description of the infamous “Boy Mom” ​​title going something like this:

  • The ideal Boy Mom candidate enjoys physical labor to the point of exhaustion. Jumping, running, swordplay and brawl skills are required. These are also included in the training program when they are hired.
  • Hearing impaired candidates are encouraged to apply to reduce frustration caused by repeated questions about the whereabouts of personal items, including but not limited to socks, toys, homework, exercise equipment, lessons on sports, YouTube influencers, Roblox or Minecraft strategies.
  • Beautiful houses are unnecessary as all walls are fair game for holes. However, the ability to repair drywall will come in handy.
  • Most have a steady balance for unexpected hugs of superhuman strength coming from all directions at all times.

Raising my sons is the greatest responsibility of my life, one that far outweighs the leadership positions I have held throughout my professional career. As a mother of four boys born within less than six years, my initial perception of raising boys fit these often stereotyped generalities. And while I believe these bullet points are true in my experience — although they’re meant to be comical here — they leave out the most overlooked and intimate parts of a boy’s motherhood. These are the corners of motherhood that have completely and forever changed the way I view the world through my filter.

Here are four things I’ve learned as a mother of four boys

Perfectionism is overrated

It’s okay not to be picture perfect, have flawless hair and wear the trendiest ensemble. My boys taught me that no matter what I look like, they love me and have fun with me. As long as we’re together, they don’t care if I’m dressed up or disheveled. Bedhead and gym clothes are a staple in their world. I love her approach to style which makes me feel appreciated no matter what I’m wearing that day!

Injuries can happen anywhere

I remember when we went to the emergency room three times a week. We were asked if we felt safe in our home or not, but then they realized we had four boys and we all loved to laugh. Boys can be physical and rough. I have stopped trying to protect my children from any harm. I’ve learned to make suggestions for safety and an environment that tries to reduce injuries. I also don’t want to suppress the independence of creativity and free play. My boys have injured themselves on bike rides and fallen out of bed, they have injured themselves exploring the great outdoors and riding their hoverboards. Injuries can really happen anywhere, so I’ve learned not to panic about every possible risk. Without constantly hovering over the endless possibilities of harm, I’m able to be a more relaxed mom.

Everyday household items have alter egos

Did you know that the spatula you got for your wedding is actually a sword too? That beautiful couch in your living room is also a trampoline, which means your son can’t just sit on it. No, that would be too easy. My boys are hardwired to run to the sofa and use it as a catalyst for their impending rollover before they are allowed to sit down and watch TV. And forget those blankets. They are not (always) made for cuddling, but to offer protection. I love watching my boys express their creativity in unique ways that will forever shape the way I look at things I once thought were standard items. I imagine one day, when my boys are grown and out of the house, that I’ll always look at blankets and spatulas in this endearing way.

My boys have taught me so much and I’m proud to hold the title of Mommy of Boys. Being a new mom means my house is filled with handprints on the wall, holes in the drywall from drill bits gone wrong, and more blood and urine stains than almost anyone could fathom. These are the stretch marks of my life with four boys. It may not always be pretty to the outsider, but those on the inside know the growth and transformation behind those visible footprints.

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